“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
Last week, we discussed the dangers of comparing ourselves to others. Today, I want to discuss steps that we can use to help us with this habit. It is easy to fall into this trap, so we need to work on catching ourselves before we find ourselves in the trap. Using realizations is the first step to stopping the comparison trap.
Realize that everyone is human. We all go through successes and failures. We have ups and downs, and we are all happy and sad. People who are successful go through some of the same experiences you go through or worse.
Realize that you only see one side of the person. People put on masks that can hide their feelings or frustrations. They let us see what they want us to see. In most cases, unless you live with that person, you don’t see what it took to reach success. They probably spent hours perfecting their trade.
The last realization leads us to the next one. They spent hours perfecting their trade because they love to do whatever they succeeded in. Each day, they practice, because they love it and work tirelessly. You try to do the same thing, and it probably fails because it isn’t your passion.
These realizations are the first step in stopping the comparison. This was one of the most important steps for me. It helped me to understand why I wasn’t successful.
First, I was too busy comparing myself to others, which is a total waste of time. Second, I wore myself out trying to copy the other person. Now, I am happily living my life and pursuing my passions.
“There is nothing impossible to him who will try.”
Alexander the Great