understanding Anger 3

Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.

Proverbs 19:11

It is extremely important to restrain our anger.  This isn’t just true because we need to show our children how to act, but because the Bible says we should restrain our anger.  This is very difficult, but I use a technique that helps me immensely. 

If someone or a situation makes me angry, I count to ten.  Of course, there are times when I am really, really angry, so I need to count higher.  After counting, I am usually able to calmly deal with the situation. 

This works well with children, too.  If we teach children to count when they are angry at a young age, they will have a better control over their anger.  No one is perfect and no can always control their tempers, but the more we practice the better we get.  When we practice counting with our children, we have a better chance of having peace in our homes.

Here is a scenario of how to count when you are angry:

A daughter has asked her parents is she can to spend the night with a friend, but, since the parents don’t know the friend very well, they say no.  At this point, their daughter becomes ballistic and starts shouting at them.   They feel like yelling back at her, but that would be pointless and a very bad example.  Instead of responding immediately, they turn around and walk away.  As they walk to another room, they start counting. 

First, they count to ten, but, unfortunately, they are still irate and need to calm down more.  Next, they count to twenty, then thirty, and then fifty.  Finally, they feel themselves calming down.  In some instances, they may reach a hundred before they are completely calm.  Now, they are ready to deal with their daughter and teach her instead of hurting her by yelling back.

Challenge: Try each of the steps in the understanding anger blogs. Put them all into practice and see what happens. This week, if you get angry with someone or a situation, count to ten and then pray about the problem. See that anger melt away.

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